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Letting Calm Confidence Lead the Way

Letting Calm Confidence Lead the Way

Techniques galore. Time outs. Behavior charts. Chore charts. Get-out-the-door charts. 1, 2, 3 warnings. Homework first. Cry to sleep. Rock to sleep. Just sleep. “Eyes only” and one finger touches. Unwavering curfew. No reading until your teeth are brushed and jammies on. Be respectful or else. Consequences consequences consequences…and on and on and on. Techniques.… Continue Reading

Two Ways To Use Playful Parenting To Set Limits and Encourage Cooperation

Two Ways To Use Playful Parenting To Set Limits and Encourage Cooperation

Playful parenting can encourage more cooperation and listening. It is possible to be playful and set meaningful parenting limits. Playfully engaging with your child, especially in matters of discipline is sometimes mistaken as being permissive.  It’s not permissive at all, it’s quite smart and effective. Playful Parenting means joining children in their world of play,… Continue Reading

Helping Your Child Through Disappointment

Helping Your Child Through Disappointment

Disappointment can be like a tidal wave of emotions for your kids. Image this scenario: The van is packed, and you’re about ready to head out the door. Suddenly, you hear thunder in the distance. No! It can’t be! You checked the weather, and it wasn’t supposed to rain for a few more hours. But minutes… Continue Reading

How To Discipline When Kids Use Back Talk

How To Discipline When Kids Use Back Talk

The most important lesson in back talk is to help children realize that it’s not effective, polite or a respectful manner to communicate. It’s important to teach our children how to communicate their needs well. The aim in stopping back talk shouldn’t be to take our children’s opinions and needs out of the picture. Much to the contrary, it should be to help them instead learn how to politely disagree and make their needs known. Continue Reading

Compassion and Understanding for Public Tantrums

Compassion and Understanding for Public Tantrums

Back-arching, jello legs, hitting, yelling, kicking, sobbing, throwing…a true melt-down or tantrum in progress…not very pretty nor fun and all while: …in the middle of the cereal aisle in the grocery store–maybe with various items launching themselves out of the cart like one parent mentioned of recent regarding a jar of orange juice…and another, a… Continue Reading

Looking At Behavior Through A Different Lens

Looking At Behavior Through A Different Lens

I believe you’ll discover how you choose to respond to your child will be in ways that support and encourage and affirm them for who they are.
In return, they can feel empowered…and that child on the periphery may begin to move into the group and engage; the child that feels so deeply begins to understand and accept her feelings even more–allowing her to manage those feelings better and better; the eye-rolling/sarcastic stuff from your teen can lessen…and they may begin to open up about what is really troubling them; the button pushing turns into more cooperative behavior and you feel calmer and more patient daily Continue Reading

Teaching Your Child to Respectfully Disagree With You (And Other Adults)

Teaching Your Child to Respectfully Disagree With You (And Other Adults)

Maybe you’re from the “parent is always right” or “children should be seen and not heard” school of thought. If so, I would challenge you to examine how that is working for your relationship with your child. Conflict between a parent and a child sometimes stem from the child not feeling heard, valued or respected. I realize that you may not feel respected either. Taking steps to communicate respectfully may be a stride toward repairing the relationship. Continue Reading