The Important Question to Ask After Yelling
We are walking up the stairs to school. It’s been a difficult morning. I am feeling drained by the need […]
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Encouraging Children to Listen: 3 Steps to Avoid Yelling
When children don’t listen, being calm and confident can take extra effort, but really it is the key to getting kids to listen. To encourage children to listen more, and stop yelling you can try these three steps.
Letting Calm Confidence Lead the Way
Techniques galore. Time outs. Behavior charts. Chore charts. Get-out-the-door charts. 1, 2, 3 warnings. Homework first. Cry to sleep. Rock
Two Ways To Use Playful Parenting To Set Limits and Encourage Cooperation
Playful parenting can encourage more cooperation and listening. It is possible to be playful and set meaningful parenting limits. Playfully
Supporting Your Child Through Social Drama
“Kelsey wanted to play house at recess, but Fiona wanted to play tag.” My first grade daughter is talking a
Helping Your Child Through Disappointment
Disappointment can be like a tidal wave of emotions for your kids. Image this scenario: The van is packed, and you’re
How To Discipline When Kids Use Back Talk
The most important lesson in back talk is to help children realize that it’s not effective, polite or a respectful manner to communicate. It’s important to teach our children how to communicate their needs well. The aim in stopping back talk shouldn’t be to take our children’s opinions and needs out of the picture. Much to the contrary, it should be to help them instead learn how to politely disagree and make their needs known.
Compassion and Understanding for Public Tantrums
Back-arching, jello legs, hitting, yelling, kicking, sobbing, throwing…a true melt-down or tantrum in progress…not very pretty nor fun and all
Looking At Behavior Through A Different Lens
I believe you’ll discover how you choose to respond to your child will be in ways that support and encourage and affirm them for who they are.
In return, they can feel empowered…and that child on the periphery may begin to move into the group and engage; the child that feels so deeply begins to understand and accept her feelings even more–allowing her to manage those feelings better and better; the eye-rolling/sarcastic stuff from your teen can lessen…and they may begin to open up about what is really troubling them; the button pushing turns into more cooperative behavior and you feel calmer and more patient daily
Teaching Your Child to Respectfully Disagree With You (And Other Adults)
Maybe you’re from the “parent is always right” or “children should be seen and not heard” school of thought. If so, I would challenge you to examine how that is working for your relationship with your child. Conflict between a parent and a child sometimes stem from the child not feeling heard, valued or respected. I realize that you may not feel respected either. Taking steps to communicate respectfully may be a stride toward repairing the relationship.