Most parents have great intentions when they come up with limits and boundaries. Which rules to set and why they are important are usually clear. The power struggles and negotiation start when parents find that keeping those limits, following through, just doesn’t go so well. While most children will not actually admit to wanting or… Continue Reading
Consider this. Your child chose C because it is his job. His job to practice being in charge of himself as often as possible. Her job to test you, to let you know HER preference, to state loud and clear “I am the boss of ME!” And your child is right. He IS the boss of himself, and as the boss, he gets to ultimately decide what choice he will make. This is truly evidence of just the kind of self-directed, independent soul you (most of the time) want to grow. Someone who is in charge of themselves.
Okay, but you still need to get out the door. To continue to support your child in their quest to be independent it is important to respect their choice. How does this look and still get out the door–maybe on time? Continue Reading
Danny just turned three years old and he used to be that kid. That kid that bites, hits and screams at playgroup…The kid everyone kind of sighs about when he arrives. That kid that ends up being placed in time out several times or taken home mid activity. Danny isn’t that kid anymore! Here is a glimpse of what… Continue Reading
Do you ever feel badly that a parenting tool everyone thinks is oh so great isn’t working for you? Or just frustrated in general that a tool you would like to use doesn’t seem to work? No matter how great a parenting tool may seem, in truth, parenting tools are not one size fits all. Sometimes… Continue Reading
A new resource for managing family screen time Screen time has become part of the daily routine for many families. Children of all ages seem to be spending time with tablets,TVs, computers and games these days. While screens can be a source of entertainment, fun and learning, too much screen time can leave families disconnected… Continue Reading
IT IS GLUE! IT IS STICKY! MAMA LOOK!!!”
What a beautiful process this was, to watch my daughter lead the way in her own learning. Direction has a place, instructions sometimes are needed but moments like this remind me that our children often, very often, have the answers within themselves. Continue Reading
As parents, we wish to have influence with our children. We wish for cooperation. We want our children to follow directions and accept guidance. Yet, how often do we take the opposite path to get there? We insist on control and demand obedience from our children. We speak of battles and power. We shush emotions… Continue Reading
When we let go of punitive parenting and authority over the child style of parenting, setting a limit with kindness and consistency and then actually holding it may at first feel similar to punishing or being authoritarian. With time and practice though, it is possible to be confident, calm and consistent in a way that conveys that the limits are about creating safety, building trust and guidance. Continue Reading
Be it digging with a stick in a muddy field, searching for crabs in rock pools, running through grass or splashing in puddles, he will find something to occupy himself and spark his interest. When at home he has free rein to go in the garden whenever he pleases, and he loves to potter about in this tiny space full of interesting nooks and crannies to explore. Continue Reading
Sharing requires understanding of another person’s feelings and desires. Sharing is about being creative with another as you use something together, it is about being compassionate and giving, it is about being respectful. How do our young one’s grow into the sharing mode? By our understanding of THEIR feelings and desires, our compassion, our giving, our being respectful of them. It also begins with complete ownership over something. Continue Reading