Letting Calm Confidence Lead the Way
Techniques galore. Time outs. Behavior charts. Chore charts. Get-out-the-door charts. 1, 2, 3 warnings. Homework first. Cry to sleep. Rock […]
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Techniques galore. Time outs. Behavior charts. Chore charts. Get-out-the-door charts. 1, 2, 3 warnings. Homework first. Cry to sleep. Rock […]
Disappointment can be like a tidal wave of emotions for your kids. Image this scenario: The van is packed, and you’re
Many parents I work with confess to yelling at their kids upwards of ten times a day. Parents say they
Skip time out and other hurtful “discipline” techniques: Children learn right from wrong, not because they were sent to the corner alone, but because they begin to understand expectations and situations, and because they have enough information that will ultimately help them make better decisions.
How to Mindfully Recharge your Parental Empathy Bank Parenting has the potential to deplete us of all energy and form,
The “I can’t” stage is a tough one. Parents often feel torn about how to handle these two words. Some
Most parents have great intentions when they come up with limits and boundaries. Which rules to set and why they
Consider this. Your child chose C because it is his job. His job to practice being in charge of himself as often as possible. Her job to test you, to let you know HER preference, to state loud and clear “I am the boss of ME!” And your child is right. He IS the boss of himself, and as the boss, he gets to ultimately decide what choice he will make. This is truly evidence of just the kind of self-directed, independent soul you (most of the time) want to grow. Someone who is in charge of themselves.
Okay, but you still need to get out the door. To continue to support your child in their quest to be independent it is important to respect their choice. How does this look and still get out the door–maybe on time?
Danny just turned three years old and he used to be that kid. That kid that bites, hits and screams at
When we let go of punitive parenting and authority over the child style of parenting, setting a limit with kindness and consistency and then actually holding it may at first feel similar to punishing or being authoritarian. With time and practice though, it is possible to be confident, calm and consistent in a way that conveys that the limits are about creating safety, building trust and guidance.